A better question
What outcome do I need from this conversation beyond proving that my position is right?
Ask the I Ching. See your next step.
Navigate Team Conflict
Clarify needs, roles, and tradeoffs before a disagreement hardens into labels about the people involved.
What to notice
Separate observation from interpretation, then identify the request, decision, or boundary that has not yet been stated clearly.
Common mistake
Rehearsing your own position so completely that you stop listening for the other side's real constraint.
One accountable action
Write the other perspective as fairly as you can, name one fact both sides share, and prepare one specific behavioral request.
Return later
What part of the conflict can I change without waiting for someone else to move first?
Sources first. Reflection, not prediction.
Keep the received cast and classical source path visible. Use the reading to improve attention, questions, and action—not to outsource judgment or claim a guaranteed outcome.
Yarrow is not medical, legal, financial, or mental-health advice. Seek qualified help when the situation requires it.